oh no!, not me (part 3)

after a few days of having been released from my job and having felt betrayed by my own boss, i called the office to set a time to meet with him since he was back in town and at the office. mind you, this was a ministry that i had worked for and my supervisor was an ordained minister. after several failed attempts to speak with him by phone, i showed up at the office unannounced. after waiting several minutes i choose to walk into his office. this man, this "minister" sat at his desk and told me that he had no clue what was going on and that knew nothing of my pending dismissal and that it was all a surprise to him. granted we engaged in a heated discussion, i told him that he would not do this to me and get away with it and that i was going to find out myself what was going on.

i called the president of the ministry to inform him of the method that one of his ministers was conducting business within his office and how he openly and blatantly lied to my face about not having any idea that about my position being eliminated. sad to say, but even with "ministers" i got the run around and this was from people who i worked for. about a week later, the president of the ministry called me and in my hurt, anger, and bitterness i gave him an ear full of my thoughts. i told him that i had no respect for a person who claims to be a "man of God" yet has the nerve to lie to my face and how my former boss chose to fly someone in from out of state to release me and then say he knew nothing about it, i told the president that my former boss was a spineless coward and a liar.

ironically, i didn't get sympathy from this person either and what was even more hurtful, is that NO ONE from this organization ever apologize for how this whole situation was handled. an apology would not have changed anything, but it would certainly eased the "sting of betrayal" that i had experienced. weeks after all this happen, an "insider" who knew of the situation and of what had transpired, shared with me that at an executive officers' meeting months before, it was decided to eliminated my position (at a set date) and at my release they agreed on giving me four months salary (severance) pay. all this was documented in the minutes of the executive officers' meeting. yet my former supervisor didn't release me as they had agreed nor did i receive my severance pay.

this event that occured with this ministry, truly broke me in so many ways. never in my life had i felt so betrayed by Christians and especially by "ministers", it's bad enough if that happens within lay people in the church, but by leaders of an "denominational organization"?? during that time, i lost respect for ministers, because i was so wounded by their lies and deception, i felt, "they all the same". i felt i was the "victim". i was the one that was "wronged". i was the one that was lied to. i was the one that was "screwed". and yet the story continues.